Anglica Pickles - A submissive in charge
Angelica Pickles is a submissive D/s lifestyler through and through. And so its apt that she happens to be the creator and the owner of the fabulous BDSM School for Submissive's in Second Life.
Angelica says she was raised in a D/s lifestyle and doesn't know any different, and therefore its natural for her to feel a kindred towards other lifestylers and to people that are interested in BDSM and especially D/s (Dominance and submission).
She doesn't run the school for profit, and is genuinely only concerned with the welfare and the learning of her fellow submissives.The school offers basic elementary knowledge of a D/s lifestyle within SL, and is totally free to anyone and everyone who has an interest in D/s and BDSM.
The school was created in June 2006 and since then has become a mecca for newbies looking for training and guidance in D/s. It has regular classes taught by experienced lifestyle BDSM'ers, and although Dom's are welcomed its primary goal is to be a sisterhood (or brotherhood) for submissives seeking orientation and guidance in their first steps towards a D/s lifestyle.
The BDSM School for Submissive's
As a sub in real life it wasn't long before Angelica found herself a Mistress Second Life. Her Mistress owned an academy that trained submissive's, and for a fee would find them a Master/Mistress. As first girl Angelica assisted in the business, but she soon realized that most people new to the lifestyle need orientation first. So with her own money she bought some land next to the academy and started building a basic learning centre to help subs with their first steps.
This was in June 2006 and gradually more and more people came to her class and people were asking if they could teach. Then came the day when her Mistress had to leave SL, and Angelica took over the entire land of the academy. But she decided not to carry on her Mistress's work because in her opinion in D/s it isn't right to sell subs. Angelica wasn't in it for the money, she just wanted to build a safe place for D/s people to express themselves. She expanded the school and it became more and more popular, with a very high standard of teaching.
Her teachings taught people new to D/s what to expect from the lifestyle. The joy of it and also the dangers of what is real and what is fake. Angelica and her fellow teachers were all BDSM lifestylers in real life and taught people how to enjoy D/s in Second Life. The school was a huge success and it wasn't long before The BDSM School for Submissive's moved to a new and improved sim. Its difficult to run a school of this size with no money, and she feels its important to keep the service free. So with the aim of creating funding she has built a market on the school grounds and regularly raises money via auctions, events and donations.
The BDSM School for submissives is still going as strong now as ever and remains one of the best places in SecondLife to start on the journey towards D/s and BDSM.
Well, as an experienced BDSM 'er in real life we were delighted that Angelica agreed to sit with us and let us in on her thoughts about D/s and BDSM.
webMaster: Hi Angelica .. What does BDSM mean to you?
Angelica Pickles: D/s means a lot to me, I was raised in a D/s family, so I don't know any other life. I was that kind of lil girl who made sure she did what her parents expected lol. It's a lifestyle in which I feel being in my place, I feel a woman, and do what's expected of me as a woman. I give my heart and soul to those I trust.
webMaster: I see... so would you say that BDSM and D/s are intrinsically connected?
Angelica Pickles: BDSM is a part of D/s. D/s is a 24/7 life style and BDSM is a part of it.
webMaster: Yes... I mean, I heard someone say that D/s can operate without BDSM, but that BDSM cannot operate without D/s, because all BDSM activity requires a Dom and a sub. Would you agree with that?
Angelica Pickles: Yes, you commit to D/s. As a sub you submit to a Dom. If that includes BDSM its up to you both.
webMaster: Right..and what about people who just like to play at D/s, and not actually live it 24/7?
Angelica Pickles: Its not a problem. As long as it brings joy. 24/7 commitment is quite a step, and not advisable to those new to it. People have their jobs, and maybe a family life. Kids should never be confronted with it. But still.... you can be submissive while you do your family duties.. and Dom of course . .
webMaster: Sure .... Have you ever heard of Sensual Dominance?
Angelica Pickles: Sensual is very important. I mean..both have to agree, and both have to talk about what they feel in the deepest grounds, and make good agreements together so both are happy. Grief is always wrong. Of course its ok to explore limits and such, but not brutally crossed. The thing is a submissive lets herself guide. She trusts her Dom, and if he pushes her over her limits without explanation, she loses that trust.
webMaster: Of course yeah ... How important is punishment in D/s?
Angelica Pickles: Very much. Without it a sub gets bratty... smiles. She'll explore the Doms boundaries too. She needs to be set back, to know her place and to accept authority.
webMaster: I see ... so what are some common forms of punishment in D/s?
Angelica Pickles: There are so many .. the pain factor is only a small part. But in all ways of punishment, it may not be too comfy... smiles. I mean... if its only pleasurable, then she'll trigger more punishments. But, there must always be forgiveness. After enduring a punishment, a Dom must tell the sub that now its ok. That's what she's doing it for. Like a sinner pray's... If I do something wrong? I want that punishment, so I know I deserved it. But then it must be forgiven. Otherwise I couldn't cope... because then I keep feeling guilty.
webMaster: Yes ... What would you say makes a good Master/Mistress?
Angelica Pickles: One who listens. Not by asking, but knows.... feels. A good Dom is intelligent. He is strict, but open for advice. Friendly, but straight when needed, so a sub feels protected in his hands .. smiles.
webMaster: Very nice answer... What are your thoughts on BDSM in SL?
Angelica Pickles: Well... there are two sides on the story. One side is its a way for people to get to know more about it, to talk about it, which is hard to do in real life because its a taboo . Here you can meet up with real lifestylers, or just play with it. The other side is there is a risk. So many think they can hunt down girls by saying they are a Master. Its not easy for many to find out if the man really is a Dom, or just faking it. In that way its very easy to get a totally wrong idea about what D/s is. Many therefore think its just about sex, or a perverted way of getting an orgasm. D/s is a way of living, and that's only for the few. Here in SL the BDSM community is huge, about 50% of the population.. in RL its only a few percent. SL is a sexual 3D chat program, so sex is the main drive here. So its understandable so many think D/s is just kinky sex. Yes.. its safer than in RL.. but what many forget is a real sub in SL looking for guidance, is easily mislead by fakers, and her heart broken.
webMaster: Yes that is very true ...
Angelica Pickles: May I just add ... so many are stunned by the fact i'm a sub. They expect a Mistress to be running a school, and that is sometimes not easy. But a sub can build, and run a place, and I am a sis for all my students. I think I am the only sub in SL running a BDSM sim. But ..I am proud being what I am, and I will never deny my submissiveness.
webMaster: Yes .. you hear of high powered business people .. that when they get home are actually very submissive ... are there actually two types of sub?
Angelica Pickles: Yes there are. In SL there are, but in RL there's only one kind. Its sometimes not easy for a sub running a sim. I mean. I listen and try to obey. but about the school I hear so much advice. Its hard to explain it. I follow my own heart, and do what I think is best. I can't overrule a Dom, but I can try and express my way of thinking.
webMaster: Sure .. Do you have any thoughts on S&M?
Angelica Pickles: If done consensually, I am ok with it. I must admit I feel very driven by humiliation scenes. So it does do a lot to me. What I don't like is severe pains. I can take some pain to a certain level.. mild sadism I can cope with. Deep humiliation or severe pain is something different, but that's personal. What I certainly despise is death play or threatening. Being forced to be exposed to do light humiliating actions...does arouse me.. blushes now. I think them things are very personal minded. Every person reaches arousal in different ways. Being ordered naked..or even with text written over my body, or doing some risky exposures in RL.. gosh.. i'm scared yes.. but it does arouse. Being leashed in RL... I feel like a humiliated child.. but I am aroused. But also smaller parts, like serving, bringing food or drinks, wearing certain clothing which reveals, or being told to dance. Its humiliating, but a mild way of S&M.
webMaster: I see .. interesting .. Ok what advice would you give to people new to BDSM?
Angelica Pickles: Observe and learn. Don't take anything for granted. Take your time and talk to as many people in the life style as you can.
webMaster: Good advice .. Where would you say is the best place in SL to learn about BDSM ?
Angelica Pickles: Well.. the best places are real D/s learning center's or gathering sims... not free sex places lol. Free sex places or so called dungeons are not the right places to learn about real D/s. That's only lust. Nothing wrong with that, but it has nothing to do with D/s. There are some bigger sims providing D/s, and many smaller private sims.
webMaster: Smiles .. and you're own sim of course.. the BDSM School for submissives.
Ok... So there you have it. Angelica Pickles.bringing heart and a sisterhood to all submissives in SecondLife.. check out the BDSM School for submmissives next time you're inworld, and show her some support!.
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