Sensual Dominance and submission
Most people outside of the BDSM community consider BDSM as being about pain, and dominance as being about using brute force. Well there's a school of thought in BDSM called 'Sensual Dominance'.
Sensual Dominance is a form of D/s, which has been designed to show the D/s world that D/s doesn't have to include the bite of the whip, crop or the edge of the blade to control a submissive, or to enjoy that control.
A real life Mistress of Sensual Dominance, Mistress Katrina Devinna
has made an attempt to explain the meaning of it and we've decided to publish exactly what she says. So here's what Mistress Katrina Devinna has to say about Sensual Dominance.
Mistress Katrina Devinna - Sensual Dominance/submission
Let me start by saying people define “sensual” differently. Many will differ with the applications I use here, and everyone is free to do so! Just as I am free to speak my thoughts. I won’t harass you about your opinion if you don’t harass me about mine ...grins.
“Sensual”, in the broad scope….
In one way, Merriam-Webster’s dictionary defines “sensual” as: “of or relating to
sensation or to the senses
The submissive waits ... The Dominant enters the room ...
The sensual submissive
The sensual submissive does not usually respond well to the violence and pain of BDSM. They respond to the simple power over the mind and body. The control is the dominant, their closeness, their strength of mind and company is enough to start this submissive on their journey. They succumb to their dominant by mere voice, touch and presence. Sensual play brings them deeper under the dominants control until the desired state is achieved.
The sensual dominant
As its BDSM counterpart, the dominant draws their satisfaction from power. Violence is usually not the sensual dom/mes way, but control still is very much a part of it. It’s more of a slower, more sensual attack on the mind and body. Matched with their sensual submissive counterpart, they steep in that power and control, building strength and momentum with their responses, just as the BDSM dominant does from their play.
An opening scene example, which may even be the same BDSM opening scene (I'll use Female/female examples, since I am One, and use those most often).
The submissive waits, standing as the dominant enters the room, her
eyes lowered to the floor, hands at her sides. The dom/me enters and paces around
her closely, to allow the sub a view of her, to make her presence felt to the sub
and to watch her responses.
The dom/me stops behind her and reaches up and lightly traces a nail along her neck, from her ear to her shoulder and whispers in her ear, “You know your mine, now, don’t you… don’t answer… I know the answer… you know the answer.” She turns and presses her back against the sub, running her fingers through her hair a few times, then taking it firmly in her hands and pulls slowly, enough for the subs head to be pulled back, looking upward.
She leans forward again, her lips touching her ear, and whispers again. “I’m going to enjoy you SO much… I feel you shaking already… I love it… you’ll shake more… I’ll love it more. You’re mine now, until I’m finished with you… do you understand?”
For the sensual submissive, this generally has them well on their way. The play taken from this point can be varied, but S/D/s starts drawing the line at the extremes of BDSM. The sensual path continues down the road to touch, speaking, more emotional response and softer physical contact than its painful counterpart. But trust me, it is no less intense to the sensual submissive. Power is still the key, and the sensual submissive responds to that power under this type of control.
I’ve always hesitated to use the word “sexual” in my description of sensual domination, because it certainly isn’t required in all forms of S/D/s, but the truth is, the most intense S/D/s is often sexual as in some cases is BDSM (come on, admit it). This is easy to understand with the second definition of sensual that we used. Activation and heightening of sexual senses, then gradual but complete control over those desires is the pinnacle of many sensual subs needs. It is at a point of heightened and denied sexual desires that they become their most compliant.
Types of purely sensual play are, “teasing and denial” (I’m making a different paper on this), bondage, face-sitting, light breath-play, tickling, etc,
Types of sensual play that include a milder form of violence (still not for all sensual subs): spanking, pinching, biting (perhaps specific body parts), clothespins, light electro play (static), etc.
So dominants, you may want to declare your style of domination before you chain your sub to the cross. You may be making an enemy, or worse yet, destroying a submissive.
And submissive's, state your desires up front; don’t get chained to the cross before you know what you’re in for. I don’t think I have to say anything more than that.
So there you have it, my description of “Sensual Submission”. Hope it helps!
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Sensual D/s by definition
Now… using this definition of sensual, it can be argued that it’s based purely on the senses, meaning that whatever heightens a persons emotional and physical senses can be considered “sensual”. Including the pain (and damage) of the whip, sharp objects, etc. But let’s look at another definition of “sensual”:
“a: relating to or consisting in the gratification of the senses or the indulgence of
appetite, fleshly; devoted to or preoccupied with the senses or appetites b: voluptuous
c: deficient in moral, spiritual, or intellectual interests : worldly; especially :
irreligious”
I so love that definition ...smile. Now, before I propose my definition of sensual dominance, let me aggravate you with another “My” definition. I'll explain why in a moment.
I qualify sensual domination as Dominance/submission (D/s) as opposed to BDSM. How do they differ? D/s can exist without BDSM, BDSM cannot exist without D/s. Someone can be dominated and someone can submit without BDSM activities, although they can co-exist. BDSM on the other hand, is grounded in dominance and submission.
As an extremely tame example of D/s, we can use the husband who chooses to obey the aggressive wife in a relationship, in his role in the home and/or in bed. This can be done without ropes, chains or pain. So that said, can D/s employ ropes or chains? Can it employ pain? Of course it can. But I entertain you with the idea that it is at a different “level” than BDSM. A lighter, more passionate but no less intense experience, still purely based on the senses, but in a different manner, still capable of pain, but in a less intense form.